1: You know what lights you have, so that's good enough for now. Download their manuals and get familiar with them. That's really important. Find the DMX traits pages for sure, that's super important. You might want to print those and keep those readily available.
2: Well, you need to read the manuals and figure out what channel modes you want to use, provided there is a choice. For example, the American DJ 64 LED Pro has several DMX channel modes. I use the 7 channel mode. With 8 of these lights, I take up 56 channels just dealing with those so I can have individual control. So, you need to do some DMX planning. But, at the same time, it's OK to have channels overlap, but it's important that if you do this, they should be like fixtures on identical channels.
The other thing you want to do is to have a profile in MyDMX. While not 100% necessary, it's really best for us humans to use the fixtures easier. If profiles aren't available, request that they be made.
3: I'm not familiar with the fixtures, but I know MyDMX does not support RDMX(remote addressing). Personally, I prefer that you manually address your fixtures. I won't comment about the need for R-DMX. With big shows with lots of identical fixtures(say, movers), this RDMX can be a massive time saver. Once you program the DMX mode and channels, you're done.
4: This depends on the fixtures. Some fixtures go into sound active mode or master/slave mode when DMX is disconnected. They will most often kick out of that mode when DMX signalling is detected. That's been my experience. But, check your manuals to be sure how the lights you'll be using will behave. Worse case is they need to be power cycled.
I do recommend against Master/slave mode in your situation because this is an installed situation. You don't want master/slave data being chugged around because it will interfere with other fixture's doing the same thing since you're all on the same wire. An Elation OptoBranch/4 is something you should invest in regardless for your application, which gives you lots of good things as well as maybe sepparating your lights out a bit for master/slave options in the absence of DMX signalling.
As I said earlier, you may have the option of sound active as something in the DMX traits so you might not need to disconnect anything.
If you do throw your lights into sound active mode via DMX, don't expect them to stay that way when you remove DMX signalling. If you can do that via DMX, there's no need to disconnect anything. If you remove DMX signal, I have found SOME lights will hold that last instruction for a period of time(say 10 minutes) before going into panic mode and kicking into that fail-over mode it is set to go into when DMX is no longer present.
5: Me? No. I won't do that. It's not a money thing and not because I'm being a jerk. I just don't do that. Seriously though, making scenes in MyDMX is very easy.
Also, keep this in mind: myDMX has a cool 3D Visualizer, where yo can re-create your environment, which gives you the tools to help you build scenes. Short of that, play live with it, can't beat that as a true 3D Visualizer.
Lots of electrical guys go into audio and lights. You're about to have some fun in a new field!